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Issue 05; July 29, 2002 Ask Boomer Al is the fun newsletter of BoomerJournals.com. If you don't want to receive it, we don't want to send it to you. Unsubscribe info is located at the bottom of each issue. _.·´¯) Contents (¯`·._ 1) This week's questions 2) What's up with this? 3) Boomer HA! HA! 4) Remarks from the peanut gallery _.·´¯) Questions (¯`·._ “Ask Boomer Al” July 29, 2002; issue #5 Some interesting questions this week … Dear Al, I’m 23 and I’ve been going out with this nice girl for over a year. I really like her but she’s starting to talk marriage and I’m just not ready. I’ve actually thought about dating other girls but I still would like to date my present girlfriend too. I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want to lose her either. Help! Signed, “Not sure” Dear not sure, You really don’t have that big a problem but then again you sure could make it into one. Ever hear the term “You can’t have your cake and eat it too.”? This girl is obviously very fond of you and I suspect you’ve done more than just hold hands in the movies for her feelings to get re-enforced as they have been. From my perspective you seem to have been less than honest with this girl about your feelings for your own selfish motives and now you want to string her along while you play the field. Sorry, you’ve gone too far for that now. I can’t blame you about the marriage part because you should not get married if you feel you are not in love with this girl … and it’s obvious you are not in love. I hope you’re a man about it and sit down with her and explain how you feel. Be honest. Tell her you’ve had a great time together but you’re not ready for a serious commitment yet and you feel you need to date other girls on occasion. If she belts you say thank you and ask if you can have another because I suspect you were a jock in high school and you’re over due for a little humbling. You do seem to be trying however. Better than the other double-timing weasel. You can ask if she would like to still date once in a while but I wouldn’t expect a positive response. You won’t get this, but to her you have already been unfaithful because you were dishonest about your feelings, it doesn’t matter what you think. You’ll get that one at about 53. Send the dog out to sniff the car for about a month or better yet join the Marines. It will be easier than what you’re going to have to put up with for a few months. Dear Al, This is hard for me to talk about. I’m a thirty-three year old happily married father of two who was abused by an older male for two years when I was eleven. It still bothers me! Should I confront the person, or forgive and forget? Signed, Troubled Dear troubled, This is indeed a time when so much of this has been in the news. Being constantly reminded of such an unpleasant time in your life has to be difficult. I too had a brief incident when I was ten and my son was abused by his scoutmaster at camp when he was about your age so I do have feelings and experience with this issue. To answer your question, I would say you should neither confront the individual nor forget. Forgiveness is always good because it is part of your healing process, but it may take you a while to be ready for that. My first advice is to consult a professional properly qualified to help you with this issue. I feel this person should be a lay person trained in these issues. The internal anger you feel must be released in a productive and healthy way for your own physical and mental health. Not all clergy is qualified to deal with the early stages of your feelings. Now here is my personal opinion understanding that it is only that based on my experience. I would bare my soul to my wife. She needs to understand what is on your heart because there is the possibility she has sensed something and may be concerned about your relationship. A counselor can guide you here. I would make sure the local police are informed. I would hesitate to file a formal complaint at this stage. Informing the police will alert them to check the guy out. I did that and found out the guy was on a sex offender registry already. I chose and my son chose not to pursue it in the courts. Many years had passed and I think it sometimes is more disruptive to your family than the punishment is to the perpetrator. Then again you didn’t mention whether this was someone in your family whom you see fairly regularly. If that is the case the “your word against his” battle is inevitable. Think long and hard before starting that. Again, these are professional counseling issues. You’re an adult now with a family and although it “bothers you” it hasn’t disabled you. God has blessed you with a wonderful family it seems and your life is good. Do not let this rise up inside of you and let your desire for confrontation and revenge over-whelm your good sense. I guarantee you that your attacker is a miserable human being who probably hates himself everyday. Deal with your issues quietly within your family. You don’t need to subject yourself or your family to insensitive questions. Get the counseling you need and decide to rise above and live on the blessings not the challenges. You can do it. Don’t accept anything else from yourself but complete victory over these feelings. Live above this issue not within it. Pursue God’s promise for your life and don’t allow the sin of another to steal your dreams and love of people. This was never your fault, but you’re only a victim if you let yourself be one. Put the experiences in your wisdom bank and be a vigilant parent. I know you can do it. I’ve seen it done. God Bless, Al _.·´¯)What's up with this?(¯`·._ Anyone see the phoney Ted Williams will on TV ... how many times has this guy signed his name on blank paper ... thousands you say? On another topic ... I am a conservative if you can't tell already. My roots however are as liberal as they come. My Grandfather was a state representative as a Democrat for thirty years. My point is, that despite my frequent frustration with big government there are a good many people in government who do a swell job and are under paid and way under appreciated. To them .. and they know who they are ... I say thank you. To the rest of the weasels ... retire ... and take about a third of the Senate with you ... pick your favorite third ... I don't really care. _.·´¯) Boomer HA! HA! (¯`·._ College student writes this note home ... "Dear Mom and Dad, Haven't heard from you in weeks! Please send a check so I know you're OK. Love, Jimmy" _.·´¯)Remarks from the peanut gallery (¯`·._ I look forward to your column every week ... Thanks for the frank honesty. Now it's time to be frank about Mary too you potato head. :) Have fun. It's later than you think. Al Member Ezine PA _.·´¯) General Info (¯`·._ Ask Boomer Al is an opt-in ezine available by subscription only. We do not use or endorse the use of spam. Your e-mail address is safe, and will never distributed for reason. Ask Boomer Al is a copyright @ BoomerJournals.com To contact us with feedback, questions or kudos, e-mail editor@BoomerJournals.com To subscribe or unsubscribe online, please go to: http://www.BoomerJournals.com/columns/SurvivingLife.html Please feel free to use exerpts from this newsletter as long as you give credit with a link to our page: http://www.BoomerJournals.com _.·´¯) Help Us Grow! (¯`·._ If you enjoyed this ezine, please forward it to a friend or two and help us grow. Thank you.; Al LeBlanc Send this page to a friend! 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