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Issue #71; December 8, 2003 Ask Boomer Al is the fun newsletter of BoomerJournals.com. If you don't want to receive it, we don't want to send it to you. Unsubscribe info is located at the bottom of each issue. _.·´¯) Contents (¯`·._ 1) This week's questions 2) What's up with this? 3) Boomer HA! HA! 4) Attitude Counts! _.·´¯) Questions (¯`·._ Dear Boomer Al I’ve been going with the same guy for over five years and he still hasn’t asked me the question. He wants me to move in with him first. I won’t! Now he’s angry with me. Any advice? Deb Dear Deb I can appreciate your frustration but I applaud your stand. While you don’t mention it, I imagine his point may be that you’ve already slept together so what’s the big deal with living together too. He must find your rejection a bit hypocritical. It’s all part of the new morality today that promotes reward without risk or commitment. My advice is to move on with your life. You will have some temporary pain but realize that perhaps by giving him what he wanted in one area he may feel entitled to more. You bear some responsibility for helping create those expectations. Your beginning is not what successful marriages are founded on so why continue to pursue a path to heartache and disappointment. You obviously want and deserve a traditional relationship with a guy who loves and respects you and wants to build a life based on mutual commitment and shared values. In the area of relationships with women most men are dumber than rocks. Perhaps it’s time to move onto another rock and remember this as a learning experience. I know you just don’t wipe away four years that easily but unless he changes his attitude you have no choice. It takes more time to really know someone than most people realize. That’s why I prefer engagements of a year or two. This guy is not interested in marriage at this point. Share your feelings with someone close to you and consider some personal counseling to help you get your life in perspective if you feel overwhelmed over this. Better temporary hurt than a lifetime of regrets. Al Dear Boomer Al I think my wife is cheating on me. I have my reasons. She claims she is not. My friends say she is and I should hire a private detective to prove it. What should I do? Distraught Dear Distraught Your question suggests you have reasons other than the warnings of your friends. If not I would start by finding out what proof they have of their allegations. We are all capable of periods of stupidity in our lives. I don’t want to discourage you but this will be difficult at best to resolve amicably at this stage because of your confronting her as you did without concrete proof. If you have children the two of you should start marriage counseling while there is hope. If there are no children and you feel confident in your suspicions you need to contact an attorney. I have seen situations where the offended party hangs in hoping to turn things around and slowly gets destroyed emotionally and financially. Get some guidance. People rarely wander from a healthy relationship so there must be some unresolved issues in your marriage. Frustration or loneliness has a way of leading one to the arms of another. I suspect the act of contacting an attorney will bring the truth to the surface very quickly and at much less an expense than hiring an investigator. There is a lot you don’t say but unfortunately yours is a very common story in this day. Many people no longer fear the consequences of irresponsible and immoral behavior. It’s the price for living for what feels good and not for what is right. It appears you have dismissed the possibility that she is telling you the truth. It would be a shame to ruin a marriage over a lie. Perceptions can be just as destructive as reality, but a lie creates a deeper and more lasting anger. When we are dealing in truth people can eventually find peace with the results. Again, I encourage you to seek the counsel of qualified professionals now. Al Need to buy or sell a house ... check this out! _.·´¯)What's up with this?(¯`·._ As I watch the goings on these days since 9/11, I wonder at what point people stopped being angry at the terrorists who murdered over 3,000 of our citizens and foreign visitors and replaced it with anger at a God fearing, moral, family man who sits in the White House. I was continually ashamed for our country with the last President. At least Bush didn't just shake his finger ... he took them on. I think the angry venemous no alternative solution approach of the democratic presidential race will soon wear thin with the voters. I've been Christmas shopping a couple of times these past several days and I see no sign of a bad economy. People are spending money like crazy. I've sold five houses in the last four weeks. Things are really picking up. I thought the New England Miami game this past weekend was something else. When the fans started throwing snow in the air to celebrate I broke up. What great attitudes they had in very uncomfortable circumstances. KC can be had on the ground we see. Miami is in trouble. It's uphill with Philly next week while New England goes to Jacksonville. That has all the markings of a potential trap game. Just my opinion. Don't like it? So tell me off at ... The Forum at Boomer Journals _.·´¯) Boomer Ha Ha! (¯`·._ There's nothing like the Christmas season to put a little bounce in your checks. :) _.·´¯)Attitude Counts! (¯`·._ "The best portion of a good man's life, - his little nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love." William Wordsworth Have fun. It's later than you think. Al Check out my Home Business E-book ... Typical "Boomer Al" irreverent humor and lessons from over the years. 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