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Issue 08; August 19, 2002 Ask Boomer Al is the fun newsletter of BoomerJournals.com. If you don't want to receive it, we don't want to send it to you. Unsubscribe info is located at the bottom of each issue. _.·´¯) Contents (¯`·._ 1) This week's questions 2) What's up with this? 3) Boomer HA! HA! 4) Remarks from the peanut gallery _.·´¯) Questions (¯`·._ “Ask Boomer Al” Issue#8; August 19, 2002 Dear Al, I’m 39 and married to a wonderful woman who is thirty-six. We have two kids ages twelve and ten. I love my wife but the passion has gone out of the relationship if you know what I mean. It’s like she doesn’t want me to touch her anymore. I’m confused. What do I do? Signed, Perplexed Dear Perplexed, What’s with you … you live in Disneyland or something? You go on the weenie list for sure. Mommy doesn’t have time to let you fondle the silkie on the blankie anymore … poor baby. Listen buddy … that’s life. I think at thirty-nine it’s time you come to grips with a few things. The hot and bothered phase is tough to maintain as you raise a family and earn a living. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have intimate moments and that they can’t be wonderful, but if you’re a four times a week guy you’ve no doubt become a burden to be avoided. All marriages reach a point that the mystery isn’t so mysterious and you go through a kind of bored with it all period. About 50% of the relationships are mature enough to get through that phase of life and the marriage grows to a new level of love that has more than just physical intimacy but a sort of emotional dependency that you each thrive on and grow from. A sort of interdependence is evolving that you realize the most when one partner is left alone after a death or forced separation. Special moments like a walk on the beach or a quiet evening with a book and sleeping in an embrace can be sensitive and fulfilling. Every couple seems to hit these periods at different times depending on the length of the relationship more so than their age. Although you're both still pretty young you have been married almost fourteen years it seems. Men get aroused very easily and almost instantly, while women do so as a long term process. Your wife is aroused by you over time by your sensitivity and empathy around the family and around her. She looks at you with affection when you are fulfilling your roll as a husband, dad, and provider and somehow find time to consider her needs. Men like that never need to ask what happened to the intimacy. Unlike men, for women it is very much an emotional process affected by many things including her health. I think you guys need a little time to talk and be alone for a weekend. Why don’t you plan a few days away at a place of her choosing and do what she wants to do for a few days and let nature take its course. Maybe she has something on her mind? Maybe you left something important out of the question? Al Dear Boomer Al, I’ve been reading your column and I must say I think you give good advice and I look forward to reading it every week. I’m a forty-two year old woman who is unhappy at work. I think my boss is a jerk for promoting a junior person over me because they are golf buddies and he kisses his butt! I’ve always wanted my own business, maybe this is the time to go for it. Any tips? Signed, not sure Dear not sure, Yours is a common story for men and women both. Sometimes it is as you say and that is not fair, but sometimes the new guy has excellent skills and actually deserved the opportunity. Your boss is entitled to male companionship and there is nothing wrong with your associate playing a little office politics. It’s the way the real world works. Learn the game if you’re ambitious and want to survive in corporate. I guess time will tell if the boss chose well. Despite the disappointment you still do have the same job you had before that you were once very satisfied with. You have to make some choices. Grin and bare it for now and look for a different job or speak up to your boss and tell him of your disappointment. The danger to that approach is he may just tell you you’re not so great and you should be happy you have a job at all after which you might feel even worse than you do now. You could consider just letting a little time pass and see how things work out. The one thing that worries me is seeing you leave a steady pay and benefits in a huff over a bruised ego and putting yourself at undo financial risk. Going into business takes planning and preparation and even then the “Harvard Triple Double” will come into play. It will take twice as long, be twice as hard, and cost twice as much as you ever thought possible and if you survive that you have a better than 50% chance of failing over the first five years in business. The optimist of course would say you have a 50% chance of success also. Not with his money though. Count to ten. You could be letting a temporary situation cause you to make a permanent change you may come to regret. Seek advice. There is safety in many counselors. Talk to people who are in the business you’re considering before doing anything else. You may gain some helpful insights. Al _.·´¯)What's up with this?(¯`·._ This Question came in from the Internet this week: Dear Al Why is it that right of center conservative Republicans are so adamant in their support of Israel (many of whom are Christians) while the average American Jew is so liberal and often times comes down on tolerance for Muslims? Steve Dear Steve I don't know why everyone does what they do but let me point out a few things. Many Jews immigrated to America before, during, and after WWII. They were rightfully appreciative of American efforts during the War. President Roosevelt was much beloved and Truman continued the courageous prosecution of the War effort on two fronts. The Democratic Party of that day was very much the party of the little man and his unions. There was a need. As we have matured as a nation both parties and many of their followers drifted to the left, which if you study the history of many nations of Europe was a natural progression of our increased affluance. In those days conservative movements were more like the feared John Birch Society and organizations of that ilk that people did not understand. When I was young liberalism seemed the common sense approach to the problems of our society, and to a degree it was at the time. As the parties changed many people moved along with them, but some, Ronald Reagan being one that comes to mind, recognized the change and changed parties. Remember his comment? "The democratic party left me, I didn't leave it." Also, people who tend to earn their own wealth from scratch rather than have a job or be born into it have a greater first hand appreciation of what it takes to have a free enterprise economy thrive and resent the do-gooder hand out mentality of many of the idle rich who mostly never worked a day in their lives. I would not be so inclusive of the Jewish community however when it come to showing tolerance to Muslim issues. Their liberal politics does not mean they are not fully in agreement with the conservative support for Israel. The Senator from Conn. is a prime example of a liberal who is very supportive of Israel and somewhat hawkish about the Middles East in general. If you were ancient like me, you'd realize that todays conservative is frequently an aged liberal who was left behind by his party many years ago. Old Republicans are now called Libertarians I think. Now I did it! Geeze. _.·´¯) Boomer HA! HA! (¯`·._ A lady with a bad rash went to see the doctor after while of irritation with the condition. "Have you been treated for this rash before?" asked the doctor. "Yes by my pharmacist." "What fool advice did he give you?" "He said to come see you." _.·´¯)Remarks from the peanut gallery (¯`·._ I don't agree with everything you say, but you are one funny guy who isn't afraid to say what he thinks. Bet you've irritated a bunch of people over the years. Ha ha. You don't know the half of it Bunky :) Have fun. It's later than you think. Al Member Ezine PA _.·´¯) General Info (¯`·._ Ask Boomer Al is an opt-in ezine available by subscription only. We do not use or endorse the use of spam. Your e-mail address is safe, and will never distributed for reason. Ask Boomer Al is a copyright @ BoomerJournals.com To contact us with feedback, questions or kudos, e-mail editor@BoomerJournals.com To subscribe, please go to: Subscibe Enter your email address, select "subscribe" and submit! 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